soundings.

soundings works two ways. with your person, you both answer privately and reveal together before each date. on your own, it becomes a dating journal: the same questions, your honest answers, an invite waiting whenever they're ready to join.

most dating tools help you find people. none help you discover whether a connection has depth.

soundings is six guided dates. each one has a theme, two anchor questions you answer privately in the app before the date, and conversation prompts you bring to the date itself. the questions are designed for poly relationships: metamours, time, jealousy, compersion, safer sex across a network.

you answer alone. then you reveal together. you're honest because nobody's watching. the reveal creates the conversation.

before each date, you each answer two anchor questions in the app. privately. no peeking.

then you reveal. you see what your person wrote. they see what you wrote. the conversation you need to have is already on the table before you sit down.

after each date, a simple checkpoint: ready for the next one? if someone picks “not yet,” the other person only hears “your partner wants to sit with this one a little longer.” no reason, no guessing game. the conversation about why happens in person, not through the app.

some connections move through all six dates in six weeks. some take six months. the pace is yours.

each completed date becomes a moment in your shared archive. over time, soundings dates live alongside pulse milestones, glimmers reveals, and embers sessions. your relationship's story, told through the practices you chose to do together.