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tantra and polyamory · part 5 of 9

the tantric map - isis

antonio · July 7, 2026 · 4 min read

this is part of my personal practice.

the tantric map is a way of tracing six qualities of tantric buddhist tradition onto their kemetic counterparts, finding where two ancient systems arrived at the same truth through different forms. each quality becomes something to cultivate, not just understand. wisdom expanded into a practice of seeing. compassion expanded into a practice of staying. fierce protective action felt familiar from the moment i arrived at it · i have always moved to protect what i love when it's threatened. what the map between Vajrayogini and Isis is doing now is giving that instinct more dimension, more range, more conscious energy.

that's what tantric practice does. it doesn't install new qualities. it cultivates what is already moving in you.


in tantric buddhism, Vajrayogini is a bodhisattva of fierce wisdom and transformative power · a being who has chosen to remain within reach of all that causes suffering, not to soothe it but to cut through it. she is depicted dancing, holding a curved blade and a skull cup, red-skinned and wrathful. the tradition doesn't describe her as angry. it describes her as awake. her fierceness isn't aggression. it's clarity with the willingness to act on it.

in the kemetic tradition, isis is the goddess of magic, protection, and restoration. she is the one who gathered the scattered pieces of osiris after he was killed and dismembered, who searched without stopping, who used everything at her disposal to bring him back. what strikes me about isis isn't the devotion alone. it's the coordination. she didn't just show up. she organized the restoration. she moved with intention and brought others into the effort.

what i recognized across both traditions: protection as an active, awake, organizing force. not reactive. not waiting to be called on. paying attention closely enough to know when to move, and willing to lead when the moment asks for it.


inside romantic relationships, this quality can manifest as protecting the bond itself.

not just when something threatens it from outside, but in the quieter daily acts of tending what is sacred between you and someone you love. choosing the relationship when it would be easier not to. naming something early before it grows into something harder. staying in a difficult moment together rather than letting it go unspoken and unresolved.

in non-monogamous relationships there is more to tend and more that can quietly come undone. that's not a weakness of the structure. it's an invitation to practice this quality more consciously, across more connections, with more intention. isis didn't protect osiris gently or partially. she brought everything she had to what she loved. that's the quality i'm reaching toward.


and then there is community · and this is where something in me genuinely ignites.

someone in our community was going through a divorce and needed to move. one person saw it, jumped on a group chat, and started organizing. others responded. schedules got coordinated, hands showed up, and someone who had a lot to manage suddenly had some of that load taken away. no committee formed. no one was assigned. someone simply saw what was needed and began.

that's isis. not just the showing up. the organizing. the willingness to name a need out loud and set something in motion before anyone else has found the words for it.

this is the energy i want to cultivate. the attentiveness that sees before it's asked. the willingness to step into coordination not because it's your role but because something you love needs tending. in polyamorous community · in any kin network built with intention · this quality becomes the difference between people feeling held and people feeling alone in the middle of a crowd.

the tantric practice here isn't passive. it's an active cultivation of this impulse. learning to keep it awake, to act on it without hesitation, to be the one who begins.

something to sit with

who in your community or constellation is carrying something scattered right now · and what would it feel like to be the one who begins to gather it?